The decision to get married is easily one of the most exhilarating and exciting ones of your life. In the first few days and weeks in particular, your mind can end up spinning out of control as you dream about every detail of your big day. Though it’s easy to let yourself get carried away, sometimes it’s a good idea to take a step back and allow yourself some breathing room. Like anything in life, taking a level-headed approach will pay off in the long run as you will be better prepared for every eventuality.
Though there’s no reason why you shouldn’t look forward to your wedding, here are a few tips to stay grounded.
Plan For Your Marriage
Ultimately, your wedding is going to be a hugely important day but the bigger picture is that you are making a commitment to someone for the rest of your life. If one or two things don’t seem to be going your way, remember that there is plenty that will be going right. Draw support from your partner and turn to them if you feel things are getting out of control. Remind yourself that your wedding will be one day whereas the marriage will be forever.
Pick the Most Important Details
Write out a list of what the most important things are to you on your wedding day. Next, put these in order so you have clear in your mind what your priorities are. This may be a difficult task, but ultimately it will be a rewarding one. You will then be able to focus on the top things that you want to go right at your wedding. This may be having the perfect cake, a killer wedding band or beautiful decorations. Now, you can spend more time and attention on these aspects. Though you will still pay attention to the smaller details, they won’t matter as much as your top priorities.
Have a Support Network
Though your partner will be there for you, you should also have someone who can give you an outside perspective. Choose someone who you are naturally close with like a friend or family member – it will likely be one of your bridesmaids. As well as relying on them for advice, they will be able to talk you round when everything feels like it is spinning out of control. You can also delegate certain tasks to them so you don’t feel totally overwhelmed with everything.
Make Realistic Plans
Though your wedding day will be the height of romance, there are other more practical preparations that you want to make. More and more couples are entering into pre-nuptial agreements as a way of safeguarding themselves in the future. Though nobody goes into a marriage thinking it will end, if you are prepared for this possibility it can be one more weight off your mind so you can really focus on planning the big day.
Take Breaks Every Now and Again
When people make the decision to get married, it often ends up consuming their lives for the coming weeks and months. It’s important that you give yourself a break for your own sanity! Not only this, when you come back to planning the wedding again, you may find that you have a completely new perspective on certain aspects of your big day. Try to do something that will take your mind off the wedding like going to the movies or out on a spa day. Sometimes, a big night out with a couple of friends does the world of good!
Keep an Eye on Finances
Though you will want your wedding day to be like a fairytale, you also will want to keep a close eye on finances to stop costs spiralling out of control. Again, this is where your list of what is most important comes into play again. Checking this will help you better focus your funds. Financial worry can also lead to a lot of stress before your wedding, so making sure you do your sums and keeping a close eye on things will help your own peace of mind.
Keep Your Partner in the Loop
Even if you are one doing the vast majority of the wedding planning, you should at least keep your partner in the loop! As well as having some to share your ideas with, they can also help keep you grounded when you are panicking. It’s likely that many other people will have weighed in with their ideas about what a perfect wedding should be all about, but always remember that the two of you are most important.
Avoid Too Many Comparisons
Unfortunately, social media and the internet has made it all too easy to compare ourselves unfavourably to our peers. You probably will have seen hundreds of wedding photos where everything looks just ‘perfect’, but always remember there is no such thing. Social media only gives a highlights reel so it is highly unlikely that people will ever upload their worst pictures. Avoid setting yourself any impossible standards and you will be much calmer when it comes to your wedding day.
It’s Your Day
There will probably be a whole number of pushy relatives or friends trying to get involved in your big day. Your parents may even feel that they have the right to dictate the way your wedding will be going as they are the ones footing the bill. You need to be polite but firm in explaining that this is your day, and while you’re very grateful for their support, you want to do things your way. Also come prepared with reasons why you have made a particular decision. If you can justify your choices, you will be in a much stronger position.
These are just a few ways that you can stay grounded before your wedding day. Having said all of this, don’t let practicalities completely cloud your mind all the time – it is your wedding day after all!